This is the conclusion of a two-part post in which I examine several common experiences of discontent at work, as seen through the days of the week. In part one, I introduced signs #1-3: Monday Mourning, Terrible Tuesday, and "Can't Get Over the Hump Day." This second post resumes with sign #4, just at the point where we begin to move into the weekend.
4. Thirsty Thursday
"Most of us are willing to put up with lives that consist largely in doing jobs that are a bore, earning the means to seek relief from the tedium by intervals of hectic and expensive pleasure. These intervals are supposed to be the real living, the real purpose served by the necessary evil of work." ~ Alan Watts
The point I do want to make, though, is that both of these levels are responses to the lack of meaning and satisfaction at work.They are, in a sense, compensations for feelings of emptiness, "means of seeking relief from the tedium."
One of the things that makes a work satisfying is the ability to lose ourselves in it, to get deeply absorbed in doing it. So, when our work does not take us out of ourselves, when it does not have something transcendent in it that causes us to lose ourselves, we may seek other means of "getting out of our heads."
The solution, of course, for the desire to numb out, is to find something to which you can give yourself completely, a work that makes you feel engaged and alive.
5. Living For Friday
"It is not more vacation we need - it is more vocation."
~ Eleanor Roosevelt
A client said to me recently, "There aren't enough days in the weekend. I feel like Friday should be part of it." Of course, as we saw with Thirsty Thursday, sometimes it is.
We say Thank God It's Friday, which loosely translates as 'Thank God Work is Over.' We are forever seeking to be done with our work, to be free to have leisure time. This is what I call the "End-of-work fantasy" -- aiming in our intentions and goals to a time when we no longer have to work, be it Friday, or vacation, or retirement, or that ever-elusive Mega Millions lottery dream.
I believe that the end-of-work fantasy is the result of equating all work with bad or unpleasant work, what some have referred to as misemployment. But as Eleanor Roosevelt suggests in the above quote, the cure for bad work is not vacation, but good work, authentic work, work with meaning and purpose. In other words, the kind of work that people for millennia have referred to as a calling.
Living cannot be restricted to the weekend. Life happens 24 hours a day. And if you are not able to be fully present in your work, you will not be able to be fully present in your life. Finding a work that is an expression of who you are is essential to the experience of being fully alive.
If your job has you pining for Fridays, then it is not hard to see that the time for a career change is at hand.
6. Sentimental Saturday
"Be not the slave of your own past. Plunge into the sublime seas, dive deep and swim far, so you shall come back with self-respect, with new power, with an advanced experience that shall explain and overlook the old."
~ Ralph Waldo Emerson
These days we even have tools that make it easier to become "a slave of your own past." Social media outlets like Facebook have made it ridiculously easy to reconnect with the old gang or the long lost love from way back when. But as sweet as nostalgia can feel at times, and despite the reported health benefits, it is ultimately a melancholy feeling.
This kind of experience is certainly not limited to Saturday, though the weekend is often that one time of the week when we have long stretches of time to wander and wallow in feelings of regret. Our longing for the past, however, is really more about our present need for growth and development than it is about the past.
Mario Jacoby, a Jungian analyst, in a marvelous book called Longing For Paradise, demonstrates how this kind of longing is really a longing for the Self, the fullest expression of our personality and individuality. In other words, it is a nostalgia for the future, for who we might become. It is the call of our deepest potentials seeking to be realized.
A career change feels hard, and becomes even more so at 40 or 50 and beyond. But if the weekend finds you listening over and over to the song Martha from Tom Waits' Closing Time and wallowing in "What got away" then it is definitely time to find newer and more "sublime seas" into which to dive.
7. The Sunday Slump
"Everything that irritates us about others can lead us to an understanding of ourselves." ~ C. G. Jung
Perhaps you've had a similar experience: You are enjoying your weekend, enjoying being with friends or family and then...Wham! Suddenly, it feels impossible to enjoy anything at all. You get grumpy. Irritable. It seems that everyone around you is doing everything they can to annoy you. Your fuse gets shorter and you find yourself snapping at people for no good reason.
If this description fits, then you are suffering from the Sunday Slump. Sundays, it turns out, are difficult for almost half the population. One recent study showed that 48% of people have difficulty sleeping on Sunday night. The reason? You guessed it. Work. According to survey provider Toluna Omnibus:
"Nearly half (48 percent) of respondents who are employed full time say they have the most difficulty falling asleep on Sunday night. The data suggest that this difficulty is related to transitioning to and anticipating the week ahead."
It is the workweek and all its attendant pains that are creeping back into consciousness. The Sunday Slump is the precursor, usually, to Monday Mourning. And so we go round once more.
The Calling Makes Its Claim
The struggles and challenges of Monday Mourning, Thirsty Thursday, Sentimental Saturday and all the rest, are signs that your calling is making its claim. As the Jungian analyst, James Hillman once wrote:
"A calling may be postponed, avoided, intermittently missed. It may also possess you completely. Whatever; eventually it will out. It makes its claim."
Take good care.
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